Whether a friend or lover, when it’s all

give and no take, one person gets saddled with all the responsibilities, all the maintenance of the relationship. If that’s you, it means you’re carrying the burden for both of you. And not only is it unfair, it’s unduly stressful. Examine your relationships closely, as you may not even be aware it’s

happening. But if you detect a pattern where you are always the one being leaned on, making the plans, picking up the tab, or stepping in to help the other—with little or no giveback or gratitude—a change is in order. Maybe it’s confronting the issue directly, seeking counseling or severing ties altogether. It’s one thing to help someone, quite another to be used insensitively. Why make yourself crazy?

These include the increased incidence of tooth decay, allergies and various diseases of the digestive system such as diverticulitis, most of them tightly connected to modern diets. Man was not built for so many refined and super-refined processed foods. Cooking, the great discovery, was just a means to make foods more digestible. Nowadays we experience an extreme version of modern eating, one abounding in processed foods and pre-prepared meals.

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